A reaction is typically quick, without much thought, tense, and aggressive. We react when the Emotional Centre of our brain is so activated that we go into fight, flight, freeze, or appease actions.
The reactive style parents tend to make quick, avoidant decisions that are based on fear or anger. These decisions are often overwhelming to your child and they do not learn how to face daily decisions without panic.
Alternatively, we want our children to learn that we can help them work through their big emotions. Giving the child the clear message that when you are overwhelmed, I will be there as a wise, calm, strong, and caring parent for you to depend on and learn from.